replace clang tidy gh action

[briaguya-ai]

it has been nothing but problematic, worth looking into something like https://github.com/cpp-linter/cpp-linter-action

[briaguya-ai]

the crux of the issue is that the comments themselves are blocking the merge. a better way to handle this would be to have a clang tidy status check that fails when there are tidy changes requested (just like format does). i think the cpp-linter-action does that but i haven't done a deep dive into it