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WEBVTT
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I like to focus on what you
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do before you go into a stressful presentation.
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Of course,
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inevitably people are going to ask,
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what do you do during the presentation?
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If you have that moment where your heart starts
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racing,
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your mouth is going dry,
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your face is getting red,
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you know,
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probably from your own experience how quickly that goes into
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a kind of death spiral,
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so i want to tell you that you actually have the control
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to pull yourself out of that,
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and what you need to do is pause
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and collect your thoughts.
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That's ok?
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It does not come across as painfully
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awkward to other people,
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they actually see it as a sign of confidence.
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The second one slow
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your breathing,
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make sure it's deep trigger that relax
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ation response.
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This is about your nervous system,
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speaking to your brain and telling you that you're in a safe
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situation.
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Another thing that people do when they get nervous speaking as
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they start to collapse,
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they start to touch their arms and touch
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their faces in their necks,
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and they don't move around and they get what we call
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penguin arms,
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where they pin their upper arms to their bodies
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are afraid they don't know what to do with their arms,
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stop yourself from doing that here's,
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how you can do it.
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Hold something,
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have a slide advancer,
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hold it away from your body carry of water bottle
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or if you're standing at a podium,
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put your arms on the podium,
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do things that force you to hold
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your arms and your hands away from your body
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that will help you to feel more confident
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and powerful,
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and it will also signal to other people that you feel powerful
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and confident the key is.
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Don't let the primitive fighter flight part of your brain
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take over.
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You are not going to be very good at telling yourself to calm
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down,
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and we're very,
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very bad doing that.
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But your body can calm you down,
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so if you say calm down to yourself when you're
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anxious,
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you go,
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oh my gosh,
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i'm really,
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really anxious.
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So you get a kind of rebound,
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the anxiety.
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If you change your body language.
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Jj,
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you're walking yourself down away from that
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ledge,
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and that really comes and your nervous system
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and allows you to regain your composure.