fix(query): fix aggregate panic in cluster mode

[zhang2014]

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Summary

• fix(query): enable spill test
• fix(query): fix join and aggregate hang in cluster mode
• fix(query): fix aggregate spill panic in cluster mode
• fix(query): enable aggregate spill by default

Tests

• Unit Test
• Logic Test
• Benchmark Test
• No Test - Explain why

Type of change

• Bug Fix (non-breaking change which fixes an issue)
• New Feature (non-breaking change which adds functionality)
• Breaking Change (fix or feature that could cause existing functionality not to work as expected)
• Documentation Update
• Refactoring
• Performance Improvement
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