fix(query): use custom connector for udf client

[everpcpc]

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Summary

• enable SO_REUSEADDR for udf client
• use global dns resolver

Tests

• Unit Test
• Logic Test
• Benchmark Test
• No Test - Explain why

Type of change

• Bug Fix (non-breaking change which fixes an issue)
• New Feature (non-breaking change which adds functionality)
• Breaking Change (fix or feature that could cause existing functionality not to work as expected)
• Documentation Update
• Refactoring
• Performance Improvement
• Other (please describe):

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[Xuanwo]

As commented, please don't merge.

[sundy-li]

ok, please check that #16696 may also use this client construct function

[everpcpc]

As commented, please don't merge.

I thinks there's no need to block this PR.

1. Hyper 0.14 is already pulled by FlightServiceClient with tonic 0.11, and this PR dose not introduce any new usage on it.
2. After upgrading arrow-rs to 0.53 and tonic 0.12, hyper 0.14 would be gone eventually.
3. DNS issue is a little urgent problem for udf client. If upgrading for arrow-rs has a long way to go, we can't wait for it.

cc @Xuanwo

[Xuanwo]

• After upgrading arrow-rs to 0.53 and tonic 0.12, hyper 0.14 would be gone eventually.

Yes, already working on this. This PR can be based on that PR instead.

PR will land in later one hour.

[Xuanwo]

Hi, apologies for blocking you @everpcpc here, but the upcoming PR is quite large and has already taken me a full day. If possible, I'd really prefer for this PR to happen afterward.

[everpcpc]

PTAL cc @Xuanwo

[Xuanwo]

Thank you @everpcpc for working on this!