Allow sendmsg to accept a preallocated Vec

[vkrasnov]

Currently sendmsg allocates a new vector for cmsg_buffer every time it is called. It would be nice if it could accept a mutable reference to Vec instead so it can reuse existing storage instead or &mut [u8], perhaps as an option?

[SteveLauC]

Hi, it would be nice to avoid heap allocations here, but if we allow users to pass a pre-allocated cmsg buffer, then users have to ensure that:

1. The buffer is zero-initialized
2. The buffer is sufficient in size

For 1, Nix can guarantee this by (possibly) re-initializing it. For 2, if we use a vector and it is insufficient, we can re-allocate to extend the capacity.

Perhaps we should provide an alternative interface? Something like sendmsg_pre_alloc()?