[v23.1.x] Using ss::chunked_fifo in metadata dissemination update_leadership_request_v2

[vbotbuildovich]

Backport #10923 to branch v23.1.x. Note that this issue was created as a placeholder, since the original PR's commit(s) could not be automatically cherry-picked.
Here are the commands to execute:

git checkout v23.1.x
git checkout -b vbotbuildovich/backport-10923-v23.1.x-31
git cherry-pick -x 4146016782bc7387c6b695689e79f506bbdfed19 e8dbe943f24fb27c74febb20474440e01f77c83a

git push origin vbotbuildovich/backport-10923-v23.1.x-31
gh pr create \
  --title "[v23.1.x] Using `ss::chunked_fifo` in metadata dissemination `update_leadership_request_v2`" \
  --base "v23.1.x" \
  --label "kind/backport" \
  --head "vbotbuildovich/backport-10923-v23.1.x-31" \
  --draft \
  --repo "redpanda-data/redpanda" \
  --reviewer "dotnwat" \
  --milestone "v23.1.x-next" \
  --body "Backport of PR https://github.com/redpanda-data/redpanda/pull/10923 "