[v22.3.x] Wait for the victim node to apply the dirty offset

[vbotbuildovich]

Backport #11350 to branch v22.3.x. Note that this issue was created as a placeholder, since the original PR's commit(s) could not be automatically cherry-picked.
Here are the commands to execute:

git checkout v22.3.x
git checkout -b vbotbuildovich/backport-11350-v22.3.x-102
git cherry-pick -x f42a55e457b9002c9cd861abd3b1bcee95e7a0fd ed473916f961c9453365d882f0dc63c3a0230dc2 57fb4c055ad47ec02a5cc7e5990939aed78fe93a

git push origin vbotbuildovich/backport-11350-v22.3.x-102
gh pr create \
  --title "[v22.3.x] Wait for the victim node to apply the dirty offset" \
  --base "v22.3.x" \
  --label "kind/backport" \
  --head "vbotbuildovich/backport-11350-v22.3.x-102" \
  --draft \
  --repo "redpanda-data/redpanda" \
  --reviewer "ztlpn" \
  --milestone "v22.3.x-next" \
  --body "Backport of PR https://github.com/redpanda-data/redpanda/pull/11350 "

[mmaslankaprv]

this version is no longer supported