[v23.1.x] Wait for leader to be elected before finishing abort cancel

[vbotbuildovich]

Backport #11905 to branch v23.1.x. Note that this issue was created as a placeholder, since the original PR's commit(s) could not be automatically cherry-picked.
Here are the commands to execute:

git checkout v23.1.x
git checkout -b vbotbuildovich/backport-11905-v23.1.x-584
git cherry-pick -x 3948312e2c2af16049b80987344c3822b4c5d0f2

git push origin vbotbuildovich/backport-11905-v23.1.x-584
gh pr create \
  --title "[v23.1.x] Wait for leader to be elected before finishing abort cancel" \
  --base "v23.1.x" \
  --label "kind/backport" \
  --head "vbotbuildovich/backport-11905-v23.1.x-584" \
  --draft \
  --repo "redpanda-data/redpanda" \
  --reviewer "" \
  --milestone "v23.1.x-next" \
  --body "Backport of PR https://github.com/redpanda-data/redpanda/pull/11905 "