[v23.1.x] Stop recovery when follower offset was already updated

[vbotbuildovich]

Backport #15049 to branch v23.1.x. Note that this issue was created as a placeholder, since the original PR's commit(s) could not be automatically cherry-picked.
Here are the commands to execute:

git checkout v23.1.x
git checkout -b vbotbuildovich/backport-15049-v23.1.x-546
git cherry-pick -x cb4e6075344b50cc3606e4d7946a4ad985404c4c 7bb54d3c5e747f0809e7d9fc74a36e2a8a34e25a

git push origin vbotbuildovich/backport-15049-v23.1.x-546
gh pr create \
  --title "[v23.1.x] Stop recovery when follower offset was already updated" \
  --base "v23.1.x" \
  --label "kind/backport" \
  --head "vbotbuildovich/backport-15049-v23.1.x-546" \
  --draft \
  --repo "redpanda-data/redpanda" \
  --reviewer "ztlpn" \
  --milestone "v23.1.x-next" \
  --body "Backport of PR https://github.com/redpanda-data/redpanda/pull/15049 "