Prevent the RpcClient cleanup thread from cleaning up the client object that is about to be used

[eric-zc1]

1. RpcClientProxy的lastUsedNanos使volatile，避免多线程可见性不一致；
2. 使用ConcurrentMap的compute，在返回之前updateLastUsedNanos，保证其他线程get的时候拿到的是都是已经更新过最后使用时间的

[eric-zc1]

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Codecov Report

All modified and coverable lines are covered by tests ✅

Project coverage is 70.11985%. Comparing base (d5ad43f) to head (473a7bc).
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