feat: make tls certificates/keys reloadable (part 1)

[sunng87]

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What's changed and what's your intention?

Part 1 of implementation for #3255

This patch caches TLS ServerConfig in a mutable container to make it possible to update by other threads. TlsAcceptor is a lightweight container of ServerConfig so it's OK to create for each connnection.

This patch also includes a file system watcher to detect file change of certificates/keys and reload them as needed.

Checklist

• I have written the necessary rustdoc comments.
• I have added the necessary unit tests and integration tests.
• This PR does not require documentation updates.

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[sunng87]

I will add configuration or feature flags in part 2.

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Codecov Report

Attention: Patch coverage is 92.76316% with 11 lines in your changes are missing coverage. Please review.

Project coverage is 84.98%. Comparing base (2035e7b) to head (12127a6).

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