Support TLS with recent Solr 9.x versions

[HoustonPutman]

Resolves #609

This is a WIP

There are various things that Solr 9.4+ will help with, but we need to support 8.11 at the very least.

Therefore, this is a part of #616

Basically we need to:

• Make sure the hostname for the Solr API is always correct
• Use the solr api command instead of invoking SolrCLI explicitly
• Mention SOLR_TOOL_OPTS in the future Solr version usages, and find a workaround for 8.11/9.3
• Changelog entry
• Upgrade Notes
• Supported Versions matrix

[HoustonPutman]

Thanks to SOLR-16964, Solr 9.4 will come with the correct SNI hostCheck default given the value of CheckPeerName. Because of this, and the fact that we only really will support SSL for 9.4+, we don't need to set this value. (And it isn't an issue in 8.11, so 8.11 and 9.4+ will work without this setting).

[sarkaramrit2]

Thank you @HoustonPutman