test py312 non-devdeps

[braingram]

Add a non-devdeps python 3.12 run to the CI (and update devdeps 3.12 to use released 3.12).

This PR also adds a minor change to the pytest defaults to include failed and errored tests in the summary output.

Checklist:

• pre-commit checks ran successfully
• tests ran successfully
• for a public change, a changelog entry was added
• for a public change, documentation was updated
• for any new features, unit tests were added

[braingram]

Merging this as the changes are minor (adding to the test matrix and a minor pytest output formatting change).