Update controller-runtime to v0.13.0

[saschagrunert]

Description of your changes

This also bumps related dependencies and adapts required code paths.

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How has this code been tested

[negz]

I'm a +1 on prioritizing this, especially because client-go v0.25.0 will bring in a bunch of client-side performance improvements for clusters operating with a lot of API groups (i.e. CRDs).

[negz]

@saschagrunert Before I merge, can you elaborate on how (or if) you've tested this?

[saschagrunert]

@saschagrunert Before I merge, can you elaborate on how (or if) you've tested this?

I just verified it via the CI, no further manual tests have been done on my side.

[negz]

I just verified it via the CI, no further manual tests have been done on my side.

We typically like to at least build crossplane/crossplane against the updated deps (e.g. using a replace in the go.mod to point runtime at your branch) and make sure it seems to run. Would you be able to do that? I know you use runtime in a different project than us.