Repair test suite for node v16 autoDestroy and coverage change

[devinivy]

The test suite needed a little love. Here are the changes:

• As of node v16 autoDestroy is on streams. This broke a test where we try to emulate a stream without a destroy() method. See stream: autoDestroy: true nodejs/node#30625.
• There were some coverage changes causing boolean expression branches to become stricter. Anyone know where that came from? I changed the code to remove the branches, each roughly of the form x === undefined || x === null to [null, undefined].includes(x).
• I came across one timing-dependent flaky test and just made it run longer to make it less likely to flake out on e.g. a busy event loop.
• Make test suite aware of win22 in addition to win19.