[SPARK-44604][BUILD] Upgrade Netty to 4.1.96.Final

### What changes were proposed in this pull request?
The pr aims to upgrade Netty from  4.1.93.Final to 4.1.96.Final.

### Why are the changes needed?
1.Netty 4.1.93.Final VS 4.1.96.Final
netty/netty@netty-4.1.93.Final...netty-4.1.96.Final

2.Netty newest version Fix a possible security issue:
([CVE-2023-34462](GHSA-6mjq-h674-j845)) when using SniHandler.

3.Netty full release notes:
https://netty.io/news/2023/07/27/4-1-96-Final.html
https://netty.io/news/2023/07/20/4-1-95-Final.html
https://netty.io/news/2023/06/19/4-1-94-Final.html

### Does this PR introduce _any_ user-facing change?
No.

### How was this patch tested?
Pass GA.

Closes apache#42232 from panbingkun/SPARK-44604.

Authored-by: panbingkun <pbk1982@gmail.com>
Signed-off-by: Sean Owen <srowen@gmail.com>

dev/deps/spark-deps-hadoop-3-hive-2.3

@@ -183,24 +183,24 @@ metrics-jmx/4.2.19//metrics-jmx-4.2.19.jar
 metrics-json/4.2.19//metrics-json-4.2.19.jar
 metrics-jvm/4.2.19//metrics-jvm-4.2.19.jar
 minlog/1.3.0//minlog-1.3.0.jar
-netty-all/4.1.93.Final//netty-all-4.1.93.Final.jar
-netty-buffer/4.1.93.Final//netty-buffer-4.1.93.Final.jar
-netty-codec-http/4.1.93.Final//netty-codec-http-4.1.93.Final.jar
-netty-codec-http2/4.1.93.Final//netty-codec-http2-4.1.93.Final.jar
-netty-codec-socks/4.1.93.Final//netty-codec-socks-4.1.93.Final.jar
-netty-codec/4.1.93.Final//netty-codec-4.1.93.Final.jar
-netty-common/4.1.93.Final//netty-common-4.1.93.Final.jar
-netty-handler-proxy/4.1.93.Final//netty-handler-proxy-4.1.93.Final.jar
-netty-handler/4.1.93.Final//netty-handler-4.1.93.Final.jar
-netty-resolver/4.1.93.Final//netty-resolver-4.1.93.Final.jar
-netty-transport-classes-epoll/4.1.93.Final//netty-transport-classes-epoll-4.1.93.Final.jar
-netty-transport-classes-kqueue/4.1.93.Final//netty-transport-classes-kqueue-4.1.93.Final.jar
-netty-transport-native-epoll/4.1.93.Final/linux-aarch_64/netty-transport-native-epoll-4.1.93.Final-linux-aarch_64.jar
-netty-transport-native-epoll/4.1.93.Final/linux-x86_64/netty-transport-native-epoll-4.1.93.Final-linux-x86_64.jar
-netty-transport-native-kqueue/4.1.93.Final/osx-aarch_64/netty-transport-native-kqueue-4.1.93.Final-osx-aarch_64.jar
-netty-transport-native-kqueue/4.1.93.Final/osx-x86_64/netty-transport-native-kqueue-4.1.93.Final-osx-x86_64.jar
-netty-transport-native-unix-common/4.1.93.Final//netty-transport-native-unix-common-4.1.93.Final.jar
-netty-transport/4.1.93.Final//netty-transport-4.1.93.Final.jar
+netty-all/4.1.96.Final//netty-all-4.1.96.Final.jar
+netty-buffer/4.1.96.Final//netty-buffer-4.1.96.Final.jar
+netty-codec-http/4.1.96.Final//netty-codec-http-4.1.96.Final.jar
+netty-codec-http2/4.1.96.Final//netty-codec-http2-4.1.96.Final.jar
+netty-codec-socks/4.1.96.Final//netty-codec-socks-4.1.96.Final.jar
+netty-codec/4.1.96.Final//netty-codec-4.1.96.Final.jar
+netty-common/4.1.96.Final//netty-common-4.1.96.Final.jar
+netty-handler-proxy/4.1.96.Final//netty-handler-proxy-4.1.96.Final.jar
+netty-handler/4.1.96.Final//netty-handler-4.1.96.Final.jar
+netty-resolver/4.1.96.Final//netty-resolver-4.1.96.Final.jar
+netty-transport-classes-epoll/4.1.96.Final//netty-transport-classes-epoll-4.1.96.Final.jar
+netty-transport-classes-kqueue/4.1.96.Final//netty-transport-classes-kqueue-4.1.96.Final.jar
+netty-transport-native-epoll/4.1.96.Final/linux-aarch_64/netty-transport-native-epoll-4.1.96.Final-linux-aarch_64.jar
+netty-transport-native-epoll/4.1.96.Final/linux-x86_64/netty-transport-native-epoll-4.1.96.Final-linux-x86_64.jar
+netty-transport-native-kqueue/4.1.96.Final/osx-aarch_64/netty-transport-native-kqueue-4.1.96.Final-osx-aarch_64.jar
+netty-transport-native-kqueue/4.1.96.Final/osx-x86_64/netty-transport-native-kqueue-4.1.96.Final-osx-x86_64.jar
+netty-transport-native-unix-common/4.1.96.Final//netty-transport-native-unix-common-4.1.96.Final.jar
+netty-transport/4.1.96.Final//netty-transport-4.1.96.Final.jar
 objenesis/3.3//objenesis-3.3.jar
 okhttp/3.12.12//okhttp-3.12.12.jar
 okio/1.15.0//okio-1.15.0.jar

pom.xml

@@ -216,11 +216,7 @@
     <commons-cli.version>1.5.0</commons-cli.version>
     <bouncycastle.version>1.70</bouncycastle.version>
     <tink.version>1.9.0</tink.version>
-    <!--
-      Please don't upgrade the version to 4.1.94.Final,
-      it needs to wait for `arrow-memory-netty` to be greater than 12.0.1.
-    -->
-    <netty.version>4.1.93.Final</netty.version>
+    <netty.version>4.1.96.Final</netty.version>
     <!--
     If you are changing Arrow version specification, please check
     ./python/pyspark/sql/pandas/utils.py, and ./python/setup.py too.