feat: replace all rmsnorm and silu

[zhyncs]

Motivation

as titled

tested with chatglm, commandr, deepseek, gemma, mixtral, qwen, qwen2, stablelm

not tested with deepseek v2, grok, minicpm, mixtral_quant, qwen2 moe

Modification

Briefly describe the changes made in this PR.

Checklist

1. Ensure pre-commit pre-commit run --all-files or other linting tools are used to fix potential lint issues.
2. Confirm that modifications are covered by complete unit tests. If not, please add more unit tests for correctness.
3. Modify documentation as needed, such as docstrings or example tutorials.

[zhyncs]

After running this PR, both ag "import SiluAndMul" | grep vllm | wc -l and ag "import RMSNorm" | grep vllm | wc -l return 0.

[zhyncs]

other:

gemma: gelu_and_mul (without tanh)
gpt_bigcode: gelu
gemma2: GemmaRMSNorm ref https://github.com/huggingface/transformers/pull/29402/files

I expect to complete in other PRs.