Update pybind11 to v2.10.0

[Skylion007]

Motivation and Context

• This PR updates pybind11 to the latest version which should allow habitat-sim to build on 3.11 beta, adds a bunch of speed and correctness fixes, and optimize pybind11 exception handling significantly, especially for large Python stack traces. This update should improve performance, build speed, and overall correctness of the Python bindings.
• I've also optimized the speed of handling of attributes, function casting, and other aspects of pybind11 in this PR which should hopefully further reduce overhead.

How Has This Been Tested

Types of changes

• Docs change / refactoring / dependency upgrade
• Bug fix (non-breaking change which fixes an issue)
• New feature (non-breaking change which adds functionality)
• Breaking change (fix or feature that would cause existing functionality to change)

Checklist

• My code follows the code style of this project.
• My change requires a change to the documentation.
• I have updated the documentation accordingly.
• I have read the CONTRIBUTING document.
• I have completed my CLA (see CONTRIBUTING)
• I have added tests to cover my changes.
• All new and existing tests passed.

[Skylion007]

@jturner65 FYI, looks like this pybind11 update removed a transitive include that caused a bug to appear caused by shadowing of ESP allocator with std::allocator. Either that or some minor update in the container caught this bug. Very odd edge case.
Fixed in another PR

[aclegg3]

Awesome, thanks @Skylion007! Great to migrate your pybind work back into Habitat.