cleanup(otel): bazel flag is obsolete

[dbolduc]

In v1.16.0, OpenTelemetry started compiling with Abseil all the time with Bazel. See open-telemetry/opentelemetry-cpp#2679

This means their --io_opentelemetry_cpp//api:with_abseil flag is now obsolete. Yay. That is good moving forward.

They plan to remove the flag in the future.

The annoying this is that we cannot know which version of OpenTelemetry a downstream target is using. So we will not know if the flag is required or if the flag has been removed. Yuck.

I think our best path forward is to adapt to the change, and try to alert customers to configuration errors through documentation.

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[coryan]

After me, nobody will read this comment block. doc/packaging.md may be a better place, or the CHANGELOG.md file.

[dbolduc]

nobody will read this comment block.

Likely true. I was really banking on people finding the write up in the quickstart's README.

doc/packaging.md may be a better place, or the CHANGELOG.md file.

You are probably right that the more places we say words the better. I wrote up some words in the CHANGELOG. I also added a link (if you click enough times) from the packaging doc to the quickstart README.